The Thin line between being "Possessive" and being "Caring"

First of all guys, let me tell you, I am not the authority to comment on relationship stuff. I am here to just tell you what I see and notice, which is one thing I am good at. You guys are open to put out what you think about this.

So, what is being possessive?

- According to google, Demanding someone's total attention and love.

- According to oxford, same definition.

And, what is being caring?

- According to google, displaying kindness and concern for others.

- According to oxford, kind, helpful and showing that you care about people.

Now, the problem is, people often misunderstand one with the other.

Why?

Is that really that confusing?

Well, it may be. 

Consider this example.

A guy named Abhay likes a girl named Pammi. Now, he expects Pammi not to talk to some of her other guy friends. He claims that he knows those guys, and he knows exactly their type. According to him, they are not good for her, they are using her, they might hurt her, they are bad influence. But, Pammi likes them. She trusts them and feel comfortable around them. 

Now, here, Is Abhay being caring or possessive?

Got confused, right?

Me too.

Consider another example.

A girl named Rohini loves a guy named Rahul. She likes his hobbies and skills. However, she does not like his passing too much time with his guitar, video games, etc. She wants him to pass most of the time with her. She wants to do things together. She insists, this will make their relationship strong. But, Rahul doesn't want to share his guitar or video games with anyone. He wants his space and time alone. He thinks he can't give his best if he is forced to share things.

Now again, Is Rohini being caring or possessive?

Again confused?

Now, I am sure, all of you have many things to say about these. But, you all have to admit that none of your answers, no matter how accurate, can clear things out. Because, these things are indeed confusing.

The main reason behind these being confusing is that all of us have drawn a line between being possessive and being caring, but the position of that line, it differs from person to person.

For example, 

In case of Abhay and Pammi, if Pammi thinks that Abhay is being insecure because he indeed cares for her, that's why he is warning about her friends and their bad influence. Then it simply means, Abhay has not crossed the line from being caring to being possessive for Pammi. And both are comfortable with it. So, for Pammi, Abhay is caring.

Now,

In same case, If Pammi thinks that Abhay do not get to decide who she may or may not be friends with. It is none of his business whatsoever. He is interfering in her personal life. Then it means, Abhay has crossed the line from being caring to being possessive for Pammi.

Similar cases can happen between Rahul and Rohini as well. 

So, in conclusion, it all depends on you and your partner. You have to see and notice carefully where your partner has drawn his/her line. And if you are comfortable with that line and its extent, you are good to go. If you are not comfortable, you have to either improvise or leave.